One very simple idea comes very often in coaching conversations: the distinction between natural and normal. Sharing it at the right moment often opens my clients to some very profound insights.
Why do you set goals?
Do you think that your life will become better in the achievement of your goal?
Do you think your goal will make you happier?
Do you think your goal will make you whole?
Look inside, and ask yourself honestly: why do YOU set goals?
And if you don’t set goals, why don’t you?
Do goals make you feel like a failure?
Do you feel that you are never going to accomplish anything?
Do you feel that putting something down as a goal makes you to lose any excitement you might have had about it?
Many people, especially at the beginning, experience a lot of difficulty with writing, putting themselves down into the ground with the questions in their mind, “Who am I to write?”, “Is what I write good enough?”, “Why would anyone be interested in reading it?”, “What is the point?”, etc. So many people experience “writer’s block”, procrastinating on their writing assignments, not being able to face the blank page, not being able to find words to express what they want as clearly as they want.
In these cases, I share my experiences with writing for LikzLife, and the insights I had that allowed me to overcome similar difficulties in the past and become a “confident writer” now.
When a conversation comes to the topic of passions, I tend to start with bringing up Mark Manson’s perspective on passions: these are not new things that you have to go for and “find”, but these are areas and activities which you have been doing throughout your life, probably in different shapes or forms…
However, such discussion about passions comes from the assumption that we all have one or more of the activities that are easy for us, while others are inherently difficult. It is a bit keen towards the idea that if we have been doing something a lot in our past, we would enjoy doing it even more in the future.
Since a few weeks, I have been having coaching conversations with people to develop and sharpen my coaching skills, as well as to find whether is a specific audience or specific type of questions I am resonating with the most and/or I am able to make a biggest difference…
Throughout these conversations I am beginning to notice common ideas that I bring to the table, common forms of articulation of my understanding, and I would like to describe some of them here, probably extending them with some words I haven’t been yet saying to the people in the sessions.