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So often people (including me, of course) believe that starting a personal project and taking 100% responsibility for the outcome means that they have to do it alone. And as the project goes on, this turns to avoiding asking for help, becoming angry at any unsolicited help and advice, being angry and bitter at yourself and the world when things don’t go as expected or take longer than you want, and keeping all returns to yourself when things do go well. Chances are, the anger and the bitterness get projected outside, at the world and the others, and start damaging or even breaking your relationships.

What is there for me today, what I want to say to myself and all of you, my dear readers: look for the love you have inside of you for the people around you, for your projects, for anybody with whom you might be negotiating and/or from whom you might be waiting for a response, for all your passions and activities not related to your current most important projects… Share this love.

Worries and doubts, fears and anxieties… So often, we put so much attention into them and believe that they mean something, about us or about the outside world.

What I have learned through studying the inside-out understanding of the human experience (CTI included): these emotions are completely irrelevant to making decisions and taking action. We can do something and worry, we can avoid doing something and worry, we can do something and not worry, we can not do something and have not a single worry in the world. Emotions and actions are completely independent threads of our life.

The tip for today, which originally was supposed to be called “No Worries”, is inspired by a glass I bought two years ago, and reads: Keep Calm and Love Life.

According to Michael Neill, via the daily audios for the first nine weeks of Creating The Impossible he shared with us everything he already knows about the creation process, and there is nothing that participants are lacking at the moment. This week’s assignment for each of us is to create our own daily tips, to practice the process of accessing the creative source for the guidance.

Here is my first tip: Keep Going.

One very simple idea comes very often in coaching conversations: the distinction between natural and normal. Sharing it at the right moment often opens my clients to some very profound insights.

Why do you set goals?

Do you think that your life will become better in the achievement of your goal?
Do you think your goal will make you happier?
Do you think your goal will make you whole?

Look inside, and ask yourself honestly: why do YOU set goals?
And if you don’t set goals, why don’t you?

Do goals make you feel like a failure?
Do you feel that you are never going to accomplish anything?
Do you feel that putting something down as a goal makes you to lose any excitement you might have had about it?

Many people, especially at the beginning, experience a lot of difficulty with writing, putting themselves down into the ground with the questions in their mind, “Who am I to write?”, “Is what I write good enough?”, “Why would anyone be interested in reading it?”, “What is the point?”, etc. So many people experience “writer’s block”, procrastinating on their writing assignments, not being able to face the blank page, not being able to find words to express what they want as clearly as they want.

In these cases, I share my experiences with writing for LikzLife, and the insights I had that allowed me to overcome similar difficulties in the past and become a “confident writer” now.

When a conversation comes to the topic of passions, I tend to start with bringing up Mark Manson’s perspective on passions: these are not new things that you have to go for and “find”, but these are areas and activities which you have been doing throughout your life, probably in different shapes or forms…

However, such discussion about passions comes from the assumption that we all have one or more of the activities that are easy for us, while others are inherently difficult. It is a bit keen towards the idea that if we have been doing something a lot in our past, we would enjoy doing it even more in the future.