LikzLife

What I would like to share with people is… freedom of thought.

We learn so many thoughts. Growing up with our family, going to school, studying through the university, taking exams, preparing for job interviews… There are a lot of norms, traditions, ways how certain groups of people speak of the life path. And sometimes it might fit us, and it boosts us forward, and it helps us to grow. Other times, and I think evolution plays a big role here, we actually feel motivated to outgrow the box where we have been raised. […]

Hello my friends! Just want to say you that I am alive and all is well :)

It gets even better from here.

Some of you know that I spent the month of March in 2015 in Marseille in the South of France. I had fallen in love with the city and the region and the country. I did not want to leave. Unfortunately, there was no appropriate immediate possibility to stay… In the last night before leaving, I made a promise to come back…

On March 18–21 I was in Köln (Cologne, Germany) for a weekend-long meeting of German-speaking practitioners of Three Principles, which flowed and extended into a Live Your Legend meetup on the Monday evening.

Here are several key thoughts, key ideas which I take home with me from these days, these groups, this energy…

It is a very widespread mistake, especially when we near a deadline: we keep pushing and stretching ourselves beyond all limits, believing only following this way we can ensure we make what we want / what is required from us on time. Hoping we can enjoy a good and profound rest afterwards, once we finish.

The life, as well as the human body, does not really function like that, especially when the timeframe is multiple days and even weeks. Making some progress forward requires periods of activity, sure, and it equally requires periods of rest. It allows us to keep taking action, making things, and ensuring that we are functioning effectively, with our energies optimally renewed and restored.

So, today’s tip is to say to myself and all of you: have a rest.

Unfortunately, no matter how I try to convince the people close to me that the situation is OK and I know what I’m doing (in each moment), most of them can’t accept with peace and calmness the facts that I have only 4 weeks of my EU residence permit’s validity left and I still don’t have a ready solution to extend / exchange it. Each of them feels obliged to give me an advice, urge me to run after anything that starts to seem like a possibility and argue with my statements which say that there is no evident solution yet.

So, the tip I have for myself today: stop trying to quiet down the others and simply keep looking within for my answers.

So often people (including me, of course) believe that starting a personal project and taking 100% responsibility for the outcome means that they have to do it alone. And as the project goes on, this turns to avoiding asking for help, becoming angry at any unsolicited help and advice, being angry and bitter at yourself and the world when things don’t go as expected or take longer than you want, and keeping all returns to yourself when things do go well. Chances are, the anger and the bitterness get projected outside, at the world and the others, and start damaging or even breaking your relationships.

What is there for me today, what I want to say to myself and all of you, my dear readers: look for the love you have inside of you for the people around you, for your projects, for anybody with whom you might be negotiating and/or from whom you might be waiting for a response, for all your passions and activities not related to your current most important projects… Share this love.

Worries and doubts, fears and anxieties… So often, we put so much attention into them and believe that they mean something, about us or about the outside world.

What I have learned through studying the inside-out understanding of the human experience (CTI included): these emotions are completely irrelevant to making decisions and taking action. We can do something and worry, we can avoid doing something and worry, we can do something and not worry, we can not do something and have not a single worry in the world. Emotions and actions are completely independent threads of our life.

The tip for today, which originally was supposed to be called “No Worries”, is inspired by a glass I bought two years ago, and reads: Keep Calm and Love Life.