For this mid-week installment, let’s look at connections.
People often tend to look for common things as a requirement to connect with each other. Similar socioeconomic background and age, similar experiences, similar interests… We think that by default, we are separate, and we need to go on the search to find these common things to have a chance at a good and enjoyable relationship.
What if that was not the case? What if at the basis level, we were made to connect, and only thoughts of our differences stood in the way of the natural connection?
To be honest, I don’t see this subject as clearly as the others yet. But let’s explore together.
If we understand that there is nothing inherent to prevent us from connecting with each other, we will be less likely to pay attention to all the excuses we may have why not reach out to someone, why not start a conversation, why not join someone in something they do or offer them to do something together.
If we realize how we are made to connect with others and to share this life experience, we might be a bit more open to offer help to someone in need, instead of thinking of all the reasons we should not.
If we knew for sure that connection and unity is in the basis of human existence, we might stop taking an enjoyable time spent with a person as a sign that we should spend our lives together, and take time to see for ourselves if we actually want to spend lives together with this person.
And if on top of that we add insightful knowing that everyone lives in their own separate reality, and a person in front of us may suffer even if we do not see valid reasons in our image of reality, we could be more compassionate and kinder to them.
Which is what Aldous Huxley gave as an ultimate advice:
It’s a little embarrassing that after 45 years of research & study, the best advice I can give people is to be a little kinder to each other.
― Aldous Huxley
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