CTI??? Daily tips??? Read the introduction to the tip #1 if you would like to have some explanations.
The idea that comes to me today as a tip is somewhat in line with the universal performance indicator of being well-intentioned towards others. This is also aligned with the eternal discourse about what is more important in achievement: the ends or the means that we use to reach those ends. Finally, it is an obvious continuation of yesterday’s tip, Keep Calm and Love Life.
So often people (including me, of course) believe that starting a personal project and taking 100% responsibility for the outcome means that they have to do it alone. And as the project goes on, this turns to avoiding asking for help, becoming angry at any unsolicited help and advice, being angry and bitter at yourself and the world when things don’t go as expected or take longer than you want, and keeping all returns to yourself when things do go well. Chances are, the anger and the bitterness get projected outside, at the world and the others, and start damaging or even breaking your relationships.
What is there for me today, what I want to say to myself and all of you, my dear readers: look for the love you have inside of you for the people around you, for your projects, for anybody with whom you might be negotiating and/or from whom you might be waiting for a response, for all your passions and activities not related to your current most important projects… Share this love.
Talk with others, take care of them, give them a gift of your time, attention and creative energy. Don’t expect anything and don’t judge immediate reactions. There is so much that can come out of it in the long term. Most importantly, it can change your perspective on the world: as you do something good for others, it helps you to see more good in them, it helps you to trust them more, it helps you to become more confident around them. Some day, you might be guided to ask them for something, they might come on board and help you when you need it the most…
I leave it to Albert Einstein to finish this post:
“I think the most important question facing humanity is, ‘Is the universe a friendly place?’ This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.
For if we decide that the universe is an unfriendly place, then we will use our technology, our scientific discoveries and our natural resources to achieve safety and power by creating bigger walls to keep out the unfriendliness and bigger weapons to destroy all that which is unfriendly and I believe that we are getting to a place where technology is powerful enough that we may either completely isolate or destroy ourselves as well in this process.
If we decide that the universe is neither friendly nor unfriendly and that God is essentially ‘playing dice with the universe’, then we are simply victims to the random toss of the dice and our lives have no real purpose or meaning.
But if we decide that the universe is a friendly place, then we will use our technology, our scientific discoveries and our natural resources to create tools and models for understanding that universe. Because power and safety will come through understanding its workings and its motives.”
Until next time,
Enjoy your life! ;)
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PS What I remembered while writing this post, aka additional references:
- The Invisible Giants (also CTI Day 5)
- Asking for help (CTI Days 22 “Don’t Do it Yourself!”, 26 “A Simple Experiment in Asking for Help”, 47 “The Big Ask”)
- Universal Performance Indicators (CTI Day 48): Enthusiasm, Insightfulness, and Being Well-Intentioned Towards Others
- “Why Being Terrible at Predicting the Future is Wonderful News!” (CTI Day 55)