Why do you set goals?
Do you think that your life will become better in the achievement of your goal?
Do you think your goal will make you happier?
Do you think your goal will make you whole?
Look inside, and ask yourself honestly: why do YOU set goals?
And if you don’t set goals, why don’t you?
Do goals make you feel like a failure?
Do you feel that you are never going to accomplish anything?
Do you feel that putting something down as a goal makes you to lose any excitement you might have had about it?
The problem with goals is that we habitually attach too much importance and significance to them. As Michael Neill puts it, it is like playing a game of fetch with yourself: you take a ball; you attach your happiness, self-worth, loveability to the ball; and then you throw it as far as you can and run after it as fast as you can. And while running you are unhappy, you are unworthy, you are not loveable. While you don’t have the ball in your hands, you are a failure. Once you reach it, you shine for a few moments in the successfulness and happiness of yours… and then you repeat the process.
It does not have to be that way.
Your happiness and well-being are given.
Here, you have it. Deal with it.
No goal, no accomplishment, nothing in the outside world can either give them to you or take them from you.
What would be if you allow yourself to be happy
…no matter if you have a goal or not?
…no matter if you seem to be moving towards this goal or not?
…no matter if you happen to achieve it in the way you expected or not?
…no matter if you actually achieve it one day or not?
Would you still set the same goal?
The truth is… Goals are simply directions. They can be helpful as a side of a compass you decide to stick to. A goal can help you to make some decisions easier.
When you start moving towards a goal, a few steps down the line you might see something new, and a direction that seems better will present itself. Will you turn or will you stay committed to your original direction?
It’s up to you.
There is no right or wrong answer.
Not a universally right or wrong answer, I mean.
In each situation, in each moment, you can look inside and honestly ask yourself: is this it? Do I want to do it? Do I want to keep moving where I was heading?
An answer will be there.
And it’s up to you whether you choose to follow it or not.
Remember, there is no right or wrong answer.
There is a choice.
However, when you access a deeper feeling, you know what is the right answer for you. And you know whether it is a good time to choose it.
The truth is, no matter what you choose, the life continues.
The Universe continues to expand (or whatever it does), the planet keeps spinning, and everybody around you is doing the best based on what they are able to see in each moment.
Would you decide to trust the feeling today?
If you choose “yes”, prepare to be surprised.