Live Your Legend promotes blogging as a self-discovery tool, and I won’t argue with it. I participated in the LYL Blogging Challenge several times and found blogging often to be a catalyst for noticeable changes in understanding oneself and achieving higher clarity about the current situation (What kind of a person are you? Where are you?) and the direction you want to go moving forward (What do you want? What are you ready to do?).
However, many people, especially at the beginning, experience a lot of difficulty with writing, putting themselves down into the ground with the questions in their mind, “Who am I to write?”, “Is what I write good enough?”, “Why would anyone be interested in reading it?”, “What is the point?”, etc. So many people experience “writer’s block”, procrastinating on their writing assignments, not being able to face the blank page, not being able to find words to express what they want as clearly as they want.
In these cases, I share my experiences with writing for LikzLife, and the insights I had that allowed me to overcome similar difficulties in the past and become a “confident writer” now.
The truth is: me too! I often procrastinate on writing tasks, I often can’t decide how to phrase the next idea, and what comes out often seems to be rubbish.
The “secret” that I found to be working for writing is to pay less attention to the quality-assessment-type of thoughts when writing. First, I have to write, simply put the words out of me onto the page / the computer screen as they come. While I am trying to be more or less gramatically correct and select words that represent the message I want to convey at least to some degree, no judgement is taken into account as to whether it is a good or a bad phrase, paragraph, direction of thought.
Let’s be honest: while I am writing, it usually seems to be catastrophically wrong and going badly. I think that I will never be able to finish a post or express what I wanted to say clearly enough.
Only when I feel like I am done writing, as it starts to seem that I managed to express MOST ideas I wanted to express in at least SOME shape or form, only then I allow myself to go back and see how I am doing with this piece of writing.
It always surprises me… In fact, it is never as bad as it felt in the process. Yes, there are always some misspellings and typos to correct, probably a few sentences to rephrase and sometimes a few things to change the order of appearance of. But the amount of rewriting that actually has to be done before the article gets published is levels of magnitude smaller compared to the perceptional reactions during the initial output.
The issues people experience with writing come from a misunderstanding of the creative process.
We think that we are the ones in control.
We think that we have to figure it all out, and once we have figured, the creativity would flow exactly as we planned.
We think that we know better, that we know it all, that our writing comes from us and tells a lot about us, about who we are as a person.
And it is not true.
At least, not in the way we usually see it.
It is more accurate to say that writing, as any creative endeavour, comes THROUGH us. And we never have any idea how exactly the things will turn out. Yes, we can set constraints, limits, guidelines, which would make impact on the flow of creativity and would definitely be taken into account in preparing and delivering the final result.
Where is the source of the writing then?
I would suggest to look at it as the creative energy, as the field of infinite possibility. The same energy that everything is made of.
What you would see is that we create out of nothing.
At first, there is nothing.
And then, there is something.
Between nothing and something are we.
Who we are makes a difference on the way this something comes about. It leaves a certain trace on this something. Even if your message is similar to somebody else’s and you use the same medium to bring this message to the world, this trace will be the defining reason of whether your expression connects and touches a particular person or not – and there are people who will “get” the message best when it has YOUR trace on it.
What we do in our life through different learning experiences is “tuning in” our skills, our ways of expressions. It is not what we add on top of us that makes us creators – we are creators by our nature. The trace comes from what we able to release and let go of, it is in the areas where we feel more and more natural with what we do, because in those activities we have found a sense of the creative process.
It brings me back to the idea of the pure potential which I mentioned in the previous coaching lesson.
What if it was not up to you to choose your message and your medium? What if you could step back from trying to figure it out with your intellect and see what is already there? What if you could pay no attention to your preconceived notions of what you are capable of, and look inside?
What would you find there?
What if there is something that wants to come out of you in this moment, and wants to do it in its own way? Could you let it be expressed? Would you show up for it?
Or would you again let your thoughts and inability to see the whole way through stop you from making the next step, maybe the only single “obvious” step which you can see right now?
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