“What do people thank you for?”
For some reason, this one is a difficult question for me now. Do people thank me for anything these days? Do I even interact with people enough for them to have time to thank me for something?
I think, right now people mostly thank me for my presence, for my attention, and for small acts of service I do for them. For something I say, for how I show up, or even simply for the fact that I do show up. For remembering, for encouraging, for listening, for being there for them.
“What do you love helping people with?”
I love helping people to feel lighter, happier, more satisfied and fulfilled with their lives. I love listening to people, to what is important for them, what touches them, what matters to them. And I love helping them to reconnect with their own wisdom.
I love coaching. I love helping people to see how they create problems and limitations out of nothing using their thinking. I love supporting people in seeing through those problems and limitations and becoming free. I love listening about their dreams and stuff that excites them, and encouraging them to make the next steps towards building the life they want to live.
“What would you be happy and excited to help others with even if you didn’t get paid?”
That’s a bit tricky question, as I am on the journey towards receiving income from the things I love to do. I have been reading “The Prosperous Coach”, and the ideas in the book shift my perception towards it being OK to be paid for helping people to change their lives, it is OK to be abundantly compensated for my contribution.
But if I weren’t paid, I would still enjoy introducing people to the psycho-spiritual principles behind the human experience. I would still enjoy to point them in the direction of the truth and say, “Your answers can be found there, and only there”.
In a totally different way, I enjoy helping people to find their way in the real world, to explain and give advice on usage of public transport systems. However, if I stop for a moment, I can see that this activity has the same essence as the above: being a guide, showing direction from where I meet those people to where they want to go. As well as trusting in their wisdom to leverage my guidance and reach their destination.
Hmm… I am curious if I could be a spiritual teacher.
My interest to the music grew out of realization how much music supported me through the times of grief, depression and suffering. That would also be the ideal for my music: to help and support others to overcome challenging times, to guide them from the darkness of their pain to the light and beauty of life.
On the contrary, I perceive photography more as a documentation tool. I do not feel much attraction towards creating new worlds with photo-art, but instead I have been using photography to document my own journey. My journey of searching for my own identity, searching for my place in the world, searching for the understanding of the world through exploration of where I can go, what I can see and what I feel about it. The photos which I share represent the beauty that I see in the world… and I publish them in the same hope that it could touch the viewer and inspire them towards starting their own search.
Writing the above shows me why I have been facing such a strong internal resistance again small jobs, corporate entry jobs… I want to guide people, I want to support people, I want to be there for them. At the same time, I can’t see how the credentials that I have, the work experience and its relevant skills could qualify me for anything that would enable me to contribute what I really want to.
Another question which I find myself curious to explore is: “What is gratitude?” Why would a person be moved to say “thank you” in the first place?
Well, let’s first leave out the habit and the behavioral rules, and focus on the cases where people really mean it when they thank us…
People say “thank you” when they recognize a contribution that somebody else has made to their life.
It is that simple.
It can completely go under our radars when somebody does something for us.
We can notice it, but see their actions as meaningless or harming, producing no positive impact, making no positive difference — and we will be silent, or say “thanks” just because we think we should.
Or their actions, words or presence actually impact us, however big or small. And when we realize that, we feel moved.
Sometimes “thank you” seems to be too little to do. We feel moved to contribute in return. With money, with time, with certain resource that we consider valuable enough both for us and for them to show that we know and we care and we are grateful for what they did for us.
But let us not underestimate the power of “thank you”. And a smile. They can give the other person more than you think. Knowing that you recognized and appreciated their contribution to your life can be the most valuable thing they receive today.
Thank you for reading.
With deepest love,
PS You can check with the previous wave’s post on this same prompt.